Therapy for Perfectionists & People Pleasers
in Texas
You’re not here because you’re “too nice.”
You push yourself to get it right—not because you enjoy pressure, but because at some point, being capable, easy, or even perfect helped things go more smoothly.For many people, these patterns developed as a way to reduce the risk of rejection, conflict, or feeling like a burden. They were ways of staying connected and avoiding loss.
What no one ever told you is this: you’re not doing something wrong.
Your system learned an incredibly effective way to protect you.
Therapy isn’t about taking that protection away.
It’s about helping you feel safe enough to no longer rely on perfection in the same way.
If this resonates, you don’t have to have it all figured out.
When People-Pleasing and Perfectionism
Are About Staying Connected
By “connected,” I mean feeling steady enough to show up honestly — without constant self-monitoring or fear of missteps.
Many people call these patterns people-pleasing or perfectionism.
And on the surface, that can be true.
But for many thoughtful, high-functioning adults, these patterns aren’t about wanting approval or being “too nice.”
These patterns once reduced the risk of rejection or being misunderstood.
Over time, this way of being becomes automatic.
You don’t choose it; it chooses you.
And while it may look like strength from the outside, inside it often feels like constant pressure. Inside is something you carry quietly.
It’s exhausting to always be “on.”
The tone of your emails.
The expression on your face.
The way you worded that text — was it too much? Not enough?
It’s exhausting to always be monitoring.
You’re constantly scanning:
Did I disappoint someone? Did I overdo it? Should I have said that differently?
And even when you’re praised, part of you wonders if they really meant it.
At some point, it became safer to focus on others than to stay connected to yourself.
But now, the cost is adding up.
You feel more numb than alive.
More “fine” than okay.
More exhausted than you want to admit.
There is a way back to yourself. You don’t have to disappear to belong.
How This Pattern Often Shows Up
You overthink before speaking, setting boundaries, or asking for what you need.
Feel responsible for other people’s emotions or reactions
You push past your limits — then feel depleted or resentful later
Struggle to rest without guilt or self-criticism
Appear calm, capable, or “together” while feeling chronically tense inside
You function well at work and in relationships—while quietly feeling like you’re always on.
These patterns are rooted.
These patterns didn’t come from weakness or lack of confidence.
They formed because, at some point, being attuned, capable, or low-maintenance helped you cope.
When connection felt conditional, you learned to stay alert.
To monitor.
To adapt quickly.
That strategy worked — until it didn’t.
The problem isn’t that this protection exists.
It’s that it doesn’t turn off, even when your life no longer requires it.
Therapy, in this sense, isn’t about forcing change or pushing yourself to “be different.”
It’s about creating enough internal ease that these patterns no longer have to work so hard.
Maybe you’re wondering…
You’ve tried therapy or self-help before and don’t want to start all over! Maybe you got good at talking about what’s going on, but didn’t actually feel different. Maybe you left sessions thinking,“Okay… but now what?”
Our work goes deeper than insight alone, helping you soften without falling apart and feel real change, not just understanding.
What Becomes Possible…
Change doesn’t mean becoming someone else. It means feeling more at ease inside yourself.
Imagine yourself in six months — feeling more ease inside yourself, noticing patterns with curiosity instead of judgment, and responding to life with steadier calm.
You might find yourself:
• Resting without guilt or needing to “earn” it
• Feeling your preferences more clearly — and trusting them
• Letting others be disappointed without guilt or fear
• Relating to yourself with greater steadiness and less criticism
What My Clients Say:
While I don’t share direct client testimonials (client confidentiality is really important to me), I can share that my clients say things like:
I’ve learned to let go. I can trust myself more and I don’t rely on what others to determine my choices.
I’m still me—but I don’t feel overwhelmed and anxious.
Clients often describe this work as grounding, relieving, and gentle, even when we’re exploring long-standing patterns.
Let’s make sure I’m the right fit for you.
This work is for you if:
You’ve been high-functioning for years, but something feels unsustainable
You recognize patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism and want to understand them at the root
You’re open to deeper, body-based work—not just coping strategies
You want therapy that feels thoughtful, relational, and attuned
This may not be for you if:
You’re overwhelmed with daily living and need more help with getting through the day
You want someone to tell you exactly what to do.
You’re struggling with active addiction or have greater needs around safety. I want you to get the support you need. Please refer to my crisis resources for more options.
If you’ve been holding everything together for everyone else, it may be time to have a space that holds you.
This work is intentional, deeply respectful, and tailored to your nervous system and your life.
You don’t have to push harder or become someone else to benefit from our work together.
